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Cambodian Wedding Ceremonies
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Cambodian Wedding Ceremonies

Cambodian weddings are long and intricate affairs that consist of multiple ceremonies and songs. Below are examples of programs used at two different Khmer weddings to help explain to guests some of the customs and meanings behind the various activities and performances that take place. Although regional and personal differences in wedding rituals do exist, both these programs detail the key elements of traditional Khmer weddings.

Bride and groom being blessed by devada (angels)
during the "hair cutting" or "cleansing" ceremony.

Note: Wedding Program A tends to translate ceremony titles more literally, whereas Wedding Program B tries to capture the essence of the meaning in the translation. For example, in Program A, Gaat Sah is directly translated as the "Hair Cutting Ceremony" because Gaat Sah literally means "haircut"; in Program B it is called the "Cleansing Ceremony" to denote the meaning behind the activity.

Cambodian weddings traditionally consist of ceremonies and celebrations lasting three days and three nights. Three is considered to be an especially auspicious number by Cambodians because of its association with the "three jewels" of Buddhism: the Buddha, the Sangha (brotherhood of monks), and the Dhamma (the Buddha's teachings). Due to the demands of modern day life however, today, both in Cambodia and overseas, all the following wedding ceremonies are usually completed in just one day.

PRESENTATION OF DOWRY

Cambodian weddings begin with the groom and his family traveling to the bride's home bearing gifts to the bride's family as dowry. Family members and friends are introduced, and wedding rings exchanged. Three traditional songs accompany the presentation of dowry:

1- Neay Pream He Kaun Kamlas (Arrival of the Groom) · A song telling the story of the groom and his family's journey to the bride's house bearing meats, fruits, pastries, drinks and desserts of every variety to be presented on the wedding day.

2- Chambak Rouy (Presenting the Dowry) · A dialogue between the matchmakers, parents, relatives, and friends of the bride and groom in which the groom's family and friends officially present the dowry gifts to the bride's family.

3- Pak Paeuk Pisa Sla (Inviting the Elders to Chew Betel Nut) · Presentation of the betel nut to the bride and groom's elders. In turn, parents of both the bride and groom ask for blessings and well-wishes for their children.

HAIR CUTTING CEREMONY

To prepare the bride and groom for their life as a married couple, their hair is symbolically cut, representing a fresh start to their new relationship together as husband and wife. The master of ceremony performs the first symbolic hair cut and wishes the couple happiness, prosperity, and longevity. The bride and groom's parents, relatives, and friends then take turn to symbolically cut the bride and groom's hair and give them blessings and well-wishes. (In the old days, the bride and groom's hair were really cut during this ceremony, but in modern times it is only done symbolically.) Two songs accompany this ceremony:

Sarika Keiv Vong (The Beautiful Cardinal Bird) · The bride's beauty is extolled and compared to that of the beautiful cardinal bird.

Trapeang Peiy (The Village Pond) · This song describes a pond with clear water where the bride was brought to take her bath. It also symbolizes the bride and groom working together in beginning their new life as wife and husband.

PAIRING CEREMONY

In this final and most memorable stage of the wedding, family members and friends tie the bride and groom's left and right wrists with blessing strings. The praises and well-wishes of happiness, good health, success, prosperity, and long-lasting love are acknowledged and witnessed by the loud sound of the gong and joyful cheer. The ceremony concludes with a shower of palm flowers thrown over the new couple. Four songs accompany this ceremony:

1- Phat Cheay · A melody inviting the bride, accompanied by her bridesmaids, to the pairing ceremony. A distinguished female relative leads the bride into the room.

2- Kang Saeuy · A melody accompanying the offering of gifts to the ancestor spirits and asking for their blessings.

3- Bangvel Po Pil (Seven Rotations) · Only married couples are permitted to sit around the bride and groom as the sacred flame is rotated seven times around the new couple. The flame of the pure bee-wax candle represents anger, which the couple should avoid as it can disrupt the marriage relationship. The smoke of the flame, however, is sacred enough to protect them from all evils if they are sincerely committed to each other. Family members who receive the candle motion their hands over the flame to guide the smoke of the sacred flame over the bride and groom.

4- Bay Khon Chang Dai (Tying the Wrists) · While the bride and groom's wrists are tied with the blessing strings, the following song is sung: "We tie, we tie three strings to each wrist of our children. We wish for true happiness and success to this couple, who will always be together like wet grass seeds. We tie your left wrist to make you remember your parents. We tie your right wrist to make you carry on the family lineage and traditions."

Khmer Wedding Program

  1. Hai Goan Gomloh  (Groom's Procession)
  2. Sien Doan Taa                  (Call to Ancestors)
  3. Soat Mun                  (Blessings from the Monks)
  4. Gaat Sah                    (Cleansing Ceremony)
  5. Bang Chhat Madaiy (Honoring of the Parents)
  6. Bongvul Pbopul        (Passing of Blessings)
  7. Sompeas Ptem           (Knot Tying Ceremony)

Origins of the Khmer Wedding

<<Khmer weddings symbolize the beautiful legend of the origin of Cambodia and parallels the marriage of the first Khmer prince, Preah Thong, to the naga princess, Neang Neak. The prince was a foreigner exiled from his homeland, and during his travels encountered and fell in love with the naga ,, princess. As a marriage gift, the father of the naga princess swallowed a part of the ocean, and thus formed the land of Cambodia.

A traditional Khmer wedding is one of the most joyous occasions for a Khmer family and typically lasts from three days to an entire week. It is a grand affair, full of color and festivity, as well as steeped in tradition. Family, friends, and other members of the community come together to share in the celebration. Musicians play throughout the day on traditional instruments, and the couple is dressed like royalty. The bride may change her outfit several times in one day. If the wedding were a weeklong affair, she could declare the color of her dress each day and the guests would dress only in that color.

Unlike most Western weddings, guests are usually highly animated during the ceremonies, with elders typically explaining the significance of the various customs to the younger generation. Please feel free to turn to a neighbor if you should have questions or comments about what is occurring. You may also stand up and leave the room if you need to stretch your legs. Guests freely move in and out during ceremonies, which are not considered rude>>.

1- Hai Goan Gomloh - The Groom's Procession

At the beginning of the day, the bride customarily waits at her parent's house while the groom gathers a procession of his family and friends. The procession symbolizes the journey of the prince Preah Thong to meet his bride the princess Neang Neak. The groom's procession approaches the bride's home bearing wrapped platters of gifts, usually fruits and Khmer desserts, and is led by a band of musicians and singers.

Here comes the groom,
This is the song for you.
Now, at the break of dawn,
We rise to the place of celebration.
Holding up high, the wedding flowers
The groom is coming.
With the achar as a witness
Granting his good wishes
According to tradition.
Holding up the umbrella high,
As we journey through places bright
This day is the perfect day
No better to be chosen.
The procession is coming with our gifts,
Offerings for the parents of the bride.
Weaving in and out as one,

We come to the place of celebration

Traditionally, the mai ba (a well-respected member of the bride's family who serves as its representative) comes out to greet the procession. The different number of fruits and desserts are counted - the more, the better. If found to be satisfactory, the mai ba and ma ha (representative for the groom's party) run through a humorous verbal parlay which ends with the groom and the rest of the procession being invited into the bride's home.

2- Sien Doan Taa - Call to Ancestors

Today is a beautiful day
And the arrangements are ready.
We offer these gifts
Inviting you to join us

And shower us with your blessings

In Khmer culture, family bonds are the ones that are the most important, and a marriage is the inclusion of the couple into their new families. At all important events, family and friends are called upon to share in the celebrations and offer their blessings. This ceremony calls forth for those who have passed away, both family and friends, to offer their blessings and observe the wedding, if not in

body, in spirit. It is a time to reflect on those near and dear to our hearts and remember to include them in our happiness.

3- Soat Mun - Blessings from the Monks

Out of respect and reverence for the monks, we ask that you remain silent while the bride and groom receive their blessings during this ceremony. Traditionally, three to five monks or as many as seven will invoke blessings which have been specifically chosen for the couple by the monks.

4- Gaat Sah - Cleansing Ceremony

O beautiful lovebirds,
Let us look at your faces
Perfect shapes, all aligned.
Teeth as white and bright as ivory

Before the bride and groom are officially married in the Khmer tradition, they must be properly prepared through an elaborate cleansing ceremony. The singers, representing visiting devada (deities who watch over the mortal realms), dance around the bride and groom. Their songs represent their enchantment with the beauty of the new couple, and they agree to personally cleanse and purify the bride and groom to bring them good fortune, beauty, and grace for the rest of their lives. The devada cut the hair of the couple and shave the groom, throwing away any excesses and misfortune that may have lingered. The new couple is also perfumed. At the conclusion of this ceremony, the visiting devada return to the realm of tansuor, the home of the gods and deceased ancestors.

O, look at the bride,
The gods must have helped prepare you!
The gods cut first,
Your parents afterwards
Then the achar to finish
It is all good now, and fitting, too

According to the legend of Preah Tong and Neang Neak, they married without the naga king's knowledge. Neang Neak prayed to the devada to witness her hair being cut, after which they then carried locks of hair to her father. When he received her locks, he rejoiced in the knowledge that his daughter was being married.

5- Bang Chhat Madaiy - Honoring of the Parents

"Rumleuk kun madaiy oeupuk."
"Remember your obligations to your parents."

"Honor your parents as you do the gods." This common Khmer sentiment is rooted in a Buddhist parable about not forgetting "kun" - a kind act or deed for which one owes repayment (a debt of gratitude). A monk explains to a temple visitor that without parents, one cannot be brought into the world to honor the gods in the first place.

The traditional song that is performed is a reminder to the bride of the hardships of raising a child. It is a song of parental duty and fulfillment, which the bride and groom will one day experience for themselves. During this ceremony, the bride holds an umbrella over her mother, a gesture that symbolizes the reversal of the protective role of her parents.

O sweet daughter of mine,
Come out to honor me.
Daughter with the smooth, bright face,
Your mother is waiting
To give you away
And do as tradition says.

While I was heavy with child,
O daughter of mine

I was so worried --
Food with salt or spice,
I dared not eat.
And when I neared my term,
O daughter of mine,
My body would tremble and shake.
I was afraid I wouldn't cross the waters,
O daughter of mine,
That I wouldn't cross
And reach the other side.

As for your father, he worked so hard
O daughter, he worked day and night,
Without thought for himself.

O beloved daughter, beloved daughter of mine
You are fulfilling your mother's dreams
O daughter of mine
Now that a husband you have

6- Bongvul Pbopul - Passing of Blessings

"Mun ouy laing leah, mun ouy prort preah."
"Do not separate, do not part ways."

In this ceremony, currently married couples are asked to gather in a circle around the bride and groom. Three candles are lit and handed from person to person. Each participant passes his or her right hand over it in a sweeping motion towards the couple, sending or throwing a silent blessing to them. Only married couples are asked to participate, as it is believed that they will pass along the special quality or essence which has preserved their union. The candles are passed around the circle clockwise seven times to complete the ceremony.

7- Sompeas Ptem - Knot Tying Ceremony

Khmer weddings traditionally have a knot tying ceremony, but unlike what the name implies, it is the guests who tie the knots, not the bride and groom. Close family and friends are invited to come forward to bring their best wishes and blessings to the new couple by individually tying ribbons around each of their wrists. These knots are tied on both the bride and groom, who were traditionally required to wear them for three days afterwards to preserve the good luck. This ceremony has customarily been considered an ideal opportunity to take a picture of each guest in attendance with the new couple.

Important Note:

In the current practice, esp. city folks, they summarize the wedding in one day instead of three days. If we arrange wedding of [one day], then we should adapt to the following guidelines:

  1. Hai Goan Gomloh/ The Groom's Procession – to start at dawn appropriately at 7:00am
  2. Sien Doan Taa/ Call to Ancestors – to start at 8:00am
  3. Soat Mun/ Blessings from the Monks – to start after [call to ancestors], i.e. at 8:30am
  4. Gaat Sah/ Cleansing Ceremony – to start at 11:00 -12:00noon (1 hour)
  5. Bang Chhat Madaiy/ Honoring of the Parents – to start at 2:00pm
  6. Bongvul Pbopul/ Passing of Blessings – to start at 2:30pm
  7. Sompeas Ptem/ Knot Tying Ceremony – to start at 3:00pm, then

The dinner reception for honorary guests can be officially served at 4:30pm – 6:30pm